By: Radhika Rai
Franz Kafka, the story goes, encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking daily. She was crying. She had lost her doll and was desolate.
Kafka offered to help her look for the doll and arranged to meet her the next day at the same spot.
Unable to find the doll he composed a letter for the doll and read it to her when they met.
‘Please do not mourn for me, I have gone on a trip to see the world. I will write you of my adventures.’ This was the beginning of many letters.
When he and the little girl met, he read her from these carefully composed letters the imagined adventures of the beloved doll. The little girl was comforted.
When the meetings came to an end Kafka presented her with a doll. She obviously looked different from the original doll. An attached letter explained ‘My travels have changed me.’
Many years later, the now grown girl found a letter stuffed into an unnoticed crevice in the cherished replacement doll.
In summary it said ‘Everything that you love, you will eventually lose, but in the end, love will return in a different form.’
The reason we suffer in love is because we cling to one form of love that has comforted us and helped us feel loved. We do not cling to the person we are in love, but to the experiences we once had. When the person grows and evolves we are disheartened and feel disassociated with the same person. Accepting the change is the anecdote to the suffering that could be self induced. Allowing the shift in the form of love is vital for us to experience true joy that love brings along.
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