Pakistani Hindu stuck in India with three children after his wife died in April is pleading with the authorities to let him return to before Independence Day, August 14.
“Mein TooT gaya huN – I am broken,” says Ajeet Kumar Nagdev, 41, speaking on phone in Urdu from Balaghat, Madhya Pradesh. His wife Rekha Kumari, 38, died on April 22, a day before the last Attari-Wagah border opening. “What can I do? The children break me, but I have to get up and keep going.”
Struggling to look after them, fearful of what will happen if one of them gets sick or if something happens to him, Nagdev feels trapped. He worries about their schooling. They miss their mother.
Stuck in their small, rented apartment with no regular meals, they have lost weight, says Nagdev adding that he himself has dropped 20 kg. Their relatives in India are also migrants living in nuclear families.
The pandemic had already impacted Nagdev’s livelihood. With Rekha’s death, he can’t leave the children and go out to work.
The Pakistan High Commission in Delhi is helping out financially, but Nagdev is not looking for handouts. He just wants to go back to his joint family home in Usta Mohammad, where five of his brothers also live with their families, so his children can be looked after.
The recent attack on a Hindu temple in Rahimyar Khan, Pakistan, has not curbed Nagdev’s desire to return. “There is museebat (trouble) everywhere,” he says. “We have friends and support in Pakistan. Allah, Bhagwan, will help us.”
When Nagdev and Rehka left Usta Mohammad in 2010 with their two young sons, they thought they would have a better life in India. Daughter Lovina was born in India, September 2012. Some years later, Rekha’s health began to deteriorate, and they started planning to go back. Then the pandemic struck and borders were closed.
When Rekha died, the family was stranded because Lovina’s name was endorsed on her mother’s Pakistani passport.
A month later, Nagdev and Lovina undertook the nearly 12-hour train journey to the Pakistan High Commission in Delhi for the passport. Even in a pandemic, the consulate cannot process online applications – the .pk domain doesn’t work in India.
The mission covered their travel expenses, exempted urgent passport fees, and issued Lovina’s passport the same day. But with the border closed due to the Covid-19 pandemic, the family remains stranded in India.
There are over 600 or so Pakistanis in India waiting to go back, according to the Pakistan High Commission in Delhi, but their return depends on the National Command and Control Centre, Pakistan. The next border-crossing date has yet to be announced.
The Pakistan consulate in Delhi has “already taken up with Islamabad for allowing the cross over in emergency cases” and are asking “if an exemption could be granted in his case, particularly”.
When approached, Pakistani member of parliament Dr. Ramesh Kumar Vankwani said he would do what he could. His friend Senator Mushahid Hussain is also sympathetic and said he will help.
“The Governments of both Pakistan and India must cooperate to help alleviate the humanitarian crisis facing stranded Pakistanis in India, particularly those belonging to the Hindu community,” says Mushahid Hussain.
“Bureaucratic red tape and petty political point-scoring mustn’t be allowed to come in the way of the noble endeavour to reunite families on either side of the border, more so, during the pandemic, when families need to be together to comfort each other.”
No one holds out much hope that the NCOC will grant an exemption.
Moved by Nagdev’s plight, IT professional Samir Gupta in Delhi is trying to raise money for the family’s air fare.
“Humanity should take precedence over all politics and bureaucracy. People in both countries should get together and do whatever it takes to get him back – we’ll get him to fly back even if it has to be via a third country,” says Gupta, who has been associated with peace initiatives like Aman Ki Asha for a decade or so.
This is not about religion or patriotism. In this case, it’s just a bereaved family wanting to go home where they will have the emotional support they need.