If you are someone who is endlessly scrolling through social media posts of seemingly happy couples and wondering ‘Why am I still single?’–then this is definitely for you. We all want to love and be loved but we are humans and make mistakes. Like Jab We Met’s Geet, we encounter a few Anshumans before we finally get our Aditya.
If you are struggling to find the right guy, then, here’s a quick checklist to help you find your perfect match.
1. Be compassionate
Most Indian men are taught to suppress their emotions and it ends up in their inability to express themselves. Deep down men seek women who are compassionate and who understand that men also can be vulnerable and have emotions. Don’t be a damsel in distress instead lend your shoulder and break that social taboo that mard ko kabhi dard nahi hota.
2. Appreciate efforts
Little things matter the most in relationships. Be it ordering pizza or watching a movie or going out trekking–be the person who appreciates efforts and admires the guy in public or in person. Make him feel that he matters to you and you will see the same being reciprocated. Also, bring flowers for him. I mean, why not!?
3. Understand and accept him
Your guy is not your passion project. You are not in his life to change him. Most women want to change the guy’s dressing sense, the way he eats or who he speaks to–but this eventually leads to the downfall of a relationship. Instead, accept him as he is. Embrace his individuality and you will see your bond flourish.
4. Build trust
Trust develops over time but that is the core of a long and healthy relationship. Being overprotective or possessive harms relationships more than anything else. Show your trust by asking for his advice, calling him as often as possible or discussing your daily activities with him.
5. Express your desire
Men want to feel they are desired and here, desirability goes beyond sex. Communication is the most important element in a relationship and so, express love and desire. Most marriages break down because there is no expression of desire–at least not verbally. So, be that person in a relationship who takes initiative and who expresses their feelings with honesty.