In a world fraught with complications, relationships can help ride the rough waves as much as hinder the journey if, the bonding itself is warped in mistrust. Herein, stems the insecurity. The instinctive urge of creating an emotional comfort zone leads to anxiety and insecure. When disturbed, talking and a shoulder to lean on does help. However, if there is no help, some people find solace in drugs, alcohol, materialistic possessions or excessive compulsive disorders and other such deviant means.
According to psychologist Nicole LePera, we must realise that insecurity is at the root of all such destructive behaviour. Early relationships determine our emotional development and when growing up, it is extremely important to be secure in our physical and mental scapes.
“At the core of insecurity is: I don’t know how to get my needs met. I struggle to soothe myself and my emotions control me because of this,” Nicole quoted. She wrote that, this feeling leads to internal anxiety and resentment, which further leads to anger. “When you meet or see a person who seems filled with rage, the insecurity is so high because more often than not their needs were overlooked or ignored,” wrote Nicole.
Therefore, as the practitioner summed up, we must recognise insecurity and instead of being in denial, learn to find therapeutic means to lessen the blues.
